Life Update - Maybe not what you expected.
Fun times well spent.
I’d like to touch up on something on the personal side of my life. Did I end my most current relationship? Yes. Did I walk away from the table? I totally did. Did it end because of one person? No. There were two people who at times, did not treat each other well. But my point for bringing this here goes way beyond that.
Because you know what did happen? I was able to go on adventures with someone I cared about at the time and those are memories that I’ll hold on to. All the laughs. Smiles. Jokes. And good times. I was able to have a dog friend in my life as well that I loved. James enjoyed all of it when he was around as well. Anything like this ending always sucks. We all handle the hurt differently but the shit always hurts regardless to some degree.
If I’m being honest, the way everything fell out is terrible.
But here’s the thing. Why can’t we normalize speaking positively about someone that is no longer in our life currently or in the future despite the fall out? Why can’t we normalize caring about the other person after things hit the fan? Why is it that when things like this happen, all people do is speak negatively about the other person? Not all men are jerks and not all women are crazy as a lot of society likes to portray. There’s so many more examples that society has forced on us in that scenario as well that simply isn’t true.
We’ve all been through life experiences that we’ve grown from in many ways or have set us back in others. But we’re all here trying. Every single day. Trying to figure all of this out. Sometimes, it’s the timing. Sometimes it’s the two personalities not meshing. Sometimes it’s the communication or lack there of between two people. But 98% of the time, there’s still two overall good people there. For example, she has an amazing circle around her of people that she’s built. On and off the island. And she values and cherishes them so much. I always loved that. She loves and supports her members at her personal fitness job. She always tries to eat healthy whether it was planned or not which rubbed off on me for awhile. Lol. She takes amazing care of her home and other items that are of value to her. And she’s an amazing adventure partner to have on the trail.
I could honestly go on and on. But I do encourage you whether it be relationships, friendships, family members, or co workers that you’re struggling to get along with or have had a recent falling out with… Instead of picking them apart with the negatives. Try finding the good in them and try speaking on that. People are always going to ask what happened. You know why? Because people love to be in the loop. Especially when it comes to drama. Its tough not give in. Especially since that’s the norm in society. But I do believe most people are good. Including in this situation. And we as people can definitely do better for each other. Especially when it’s least expected.
